Thursday, 27 November 2008

Breathing my new life

My life is radically changing with the passage of every hour, every minute and every second. Whether the change is going to be beneficial to me or not is a question that I do not wish to interrogate myself since the occurrence of events are so exciting. I am also able to identify a new ‘me’ everyday. My acuity is no more limited. I have defined no boundaries for anything. My thoughts are no longer miserable. I am free. I am independent. I am liberated. I am ‘ME’.

I am known as a very talkative person to many, as a reserved person to a few, as a lively person to another few, an irritating specimen to some. The list is endless. But knowing me through me is an achievement and I did it! I now know me. I love me. I want me to be me, forever. I am my special me.

I no longer want to depend on the happiness of yester years or the dreams of my future. I want to enjoy every bit of the happenings in my life that are festooned with vibrant wrappers and are available exclusively for me. Whether it brings me joy or sorrow, I want to accept it and enjoy it too. I am confident. I am positive. I am self-assured.

No philosophies can convince me. I have formulated my own unique conjecture to lead my life. I have drawn the silhouette of the vim and vigor of my existence. I will be exclusively responsible for every movement in my life starting from the air that I breathe. This is my new life, my lonely life, my only life! There are no partakers of the happiness and sorrows that I go through ‘coz it is MY life.

How inimitable is the creation of an individual! Each one of us is distinctively known through our exceptional nature. Set aside the limitations that bind us. Throw away the objects of disturbances. Kick off the statutory obligations that restrict us. Lead the blissful life that brings shocking surprises and excitement every second. Is that not life all about? We are gifted not to have absolutely any idea of what will happen the next second. Isn’t life thrilling? It is indeed thrilling to me. Life is like watching a thriller movie. Every second is going to be suspense. Sometimes appalling and sometimes pleasurable.

Saturday, 15 November 2008

Weekend Musings

Friends promised to come home but did not. My weekend thus began with disappointment. But it was not as bad as expected. Friday gave a slow start as always. But it turned out to be an interesting weekend in the end. We decided to go for a movie in the evening.

I never appreciate taking kids to cinema halls. I get irritated with the noise of children at theatres. I love watching movies uninterruptedly with a bag of popcorn, a bar of chocolate and some juice. I hate to attend to kids’ uneasiness at that time. Hence I successfully avoided my kids into theatres so far. G and I managed to watch movies in their absence always. Either of our parents was always there every time we wanted to watch a movie. But this time, we had nobody to look after kids but I badly wanted to divert my mind. Hence I decided to take kids along with us to the movie. I gave them a brief lecture as to how a cinema hall would look like and what would be screened and about the silence they are expected to maintain throughout and finally promised them all the goodies that they would love to munch. That did the magic.

Surprisingly, they were quiet all through. They were amazed to see the gigantic screens in front of them and things being screened in an enlarged version. The sound was deafening and they were all surprised. We went to a Hindi movie called “Fashion”. Kids do not understand a word in Hindi but the exuberance in their faces was so profound that I could make out that they were really thrilled by the strange feeling. They were so busy munching their popcorn and cheese balls that they were completely lost in their own world.

The movie was a fantastic movie – flawless and thoroughly entertaining with not one unwanted scene in between. It was so coherent and sequential. Priyanka has indeed done a fantastic role.

In the interval, I asked kids if they enjoyed the movie. They gave me a big nod. One said that she enjoyed their popcorn most while the other said that she enjoyed the aunty on screen. At the end of the movie, I was curious to know if the kids understood something. But both of them said that they did not understand anything but enjoyed it because it was a huge screen with many beautiful ladies and nice gorgeous stuff that they wore. They also made a request finally to take them to a Tamil movie next time so that they can understand something. :)

Sunday, 9 November 2008

Categories of People

The most wonderful creation of God is believed to be man. The uniqueness of every individual from a new born baby adds further beauty to God’s creation. But my concern is about those set of people God created by mistake. I guess that those kinds of people are still alive since God cannot due to some reason erase the error. Maybe server was down when He wanted to recall them back. Are you wondering about what kind of people am I talking about?

Category 1 – People who do not answer their phone: I agree that we all will get into a situation where we may not be able to attend calls. But this particular sect of people does not fall into that class. They do not pick up phone by habit. Even if the heaven comes down, they will not pick their phone up. If by mistake they pick it up, they have their recorded monotonous message, “I will call you back.” The time will never come for them to return their calls till their death. If we happen to meet such idiots in person, we silly people tend to confess honestly to them that we had called him on this date at this time and such crap. To such questions, he would reply with wonderment, “Is it? I never received your call!”

I know boss! I know you never bother to check who called you. Maybe you are using a mobile that cannot store more than 20 numbers. You consistently miss all calls and act as though you know nothing! We are fools to call people like you. I think you carry a phone for fashion.

I feel tempted sometimes to snatch their phones and hand it over to really needy people.

Category 2 – People who give missed calls: Of late, it is becoming a habit to give missed calls to people who are at work so that they can use their office phones for personal use. That is not my worry. Again, my concern is about people who give missed calls at our residence numbers. They lack the sense of understanding that we are not interested in returning their call when we turn quiet to such strange rings. They continuously give missed calls after missed calls until we return their call. What kind of foolishness is this! Sometimes, I try picking up immediately to such missed calls. Even if by mistake they happen to hear our “hello”, they immediately ask us to call back. I don’t understand why I should be interested in saving their money!! Or will they call us back if we give them missed calls? Good heavens! Save the earth from such silly guys!

Category 3 – People who don’t respond to emails: I know that emails simply get accumulated in everybody’s mail box. 24 hours will be insufficient if one has to read and dispose all the mails on a given day. But, these kinds of people I am talking about have the time to read but no time to respond. They claim to be ‘busy’ people. They have all the time on earth to read mails or see the pictures sent but we should believe them without a doubt when they say that they did not have time to reply. Is it not an insult to the person who sends the mail?

At the moment, I am vexed with the above mentioned categories of people. They all fall into the ‘educated classes’! Education has lost its value for having educated such people!

Saturday, 8 November 2008

A Fulfilling Weekend

This weekend brought about the real change that we all were looking forward to. We had invited A and S to our house for dinner on Thursday. With the curtain guys fixing the curtains at one end and me concentrating on kids at the other end, it seemed a never ending process. I was just running behind the two to make sure they don’t run over the screws and nails the curtain guys had scattered all over. The remains of curtain hooks, screws, nails and the powder that fell from the wall as they drilled holes all over, were indeed a big mess to clean. They kept me busy from morning 10.30 till 5 pm in the evening.

Thanks to the Thursday traffic that made G, A and S come very late back home. Had they come much earlier, they would have been shocked to see a messy house with no trace of any dinner being served. I was delighted to see ‘people’ coming home. Being deprived of any kinds of contacts for a long time, the arrival of A and S indeed brought some bloom in the face of children as well as mine.

A and S were equally delighted. They played with kids and kept them thoroughly entertained. Then came the dinner time! Kids ate quickly with the least fuss fearing that they might miss something if they ate slowly. That way, one of my big troubles of feeding kids was also diminished by A and S. G, A, and S had dinner together and they richly complimented the food that I served (I really do not know if they meant what they said). After dinner, we all sat down to play board games. Well, I should admit here that kids are growing up. They too sat down to play with us and had great fun playing. We then listened to some music, talked, talked and talked. I thought I was only going through the loneliness here in the new city but the way kids reacted that night proved that they were also dying to meet people. After prolonged hours of chatting, we then decided to sleep.

I don’t understand why the sun rises too damn quickly on a Friday! I was prompted to curl myself into the blanket for a little more time when I was suddenly reminded of Sadguru’s words – “It is not real freedom to sleep for a long time. Real freedom lies only when you can afford to get up at ANY time you are asked to get up.” I had to get up early to take care of the ‘guests’ at home and serve them a proper meal though framing an itinerary for the day was a big task since each of us got up at a different time. We planned from a desert safari to watching movies – but nothing actually worked. We finally decided to have our lunch outside and keep loitering around. Each of us had our breakfast at a different time.

By the time we went out for lunch, it was 3.15 and somehow managed to get into a restaurant that could serve us what we wanted. After spending nearly an hour inside, we then moved towards the beach. The climate was very favourable to the decision that we took. The wind gently swayed as though they followed a pattern. It was quite a chilly evening. Kids enjoyed collecting shells and building sand castles as usual. G, A and S were busy talking all kinds of politics around their world. I was very busy creating my dream world and trying to live there with all my imagination. In short, it was a fulfilling weekend.

Monday, 3 November 2008

Show Mercy, O Showers!

Didn’t you convey the message of your arrival
through the harbinger of all seasons?
Now I see not a trace of you around!
Aren’t you testing my patience?

You may be seasonal yet sensational;
You may be inconsistent yet steady;
You may be garish yet simple;
May I implore for a quick downpour?

Waiting restlessly for you with parched lips
on the crest of a lonely rock of a desert,
in the brink of despair
with no layer to shield me.

Waiting for the strands of mercy
to touch every cell of my body,
that would relieve me of this desperation
and rejuvenate my soul and spirit.

I will squirm not with displeasure
on your gentle touch,
for, I have fully attuned myself to
merrily dance to your cadence.

May it be beating showers,
or even gentle tapping all over,
I am ready to welcome you in any form -
all because of my fretfulness.

Come on, pour down! Tap me, and pat me,
touch me, and feel me
encompass me, encircle me
engulf in me and just dissolve in me!

My eye lids are wide open
waiting for a brisk sprinkle to close it.
My face has withered down
waiting for you to come and moisturize it.

My lips are bruised
devoid of your tender kiss.
My body is burning with heat
waiting for you to come and cool it down

You are nature’s bounty bestowed on me.
Drown me with your compassion.
Don’t you know that I have a syndrome
for which you are the only medication ?


Saturday, 1 November 2008

The Metamorphosis - from hatred to love








Sitting in the foyer of isolation, crooning elegies over my lost autonomy, I spent my first few days in the new country. Shifting from Bahrain to Abu Dhabi was undoubtedly a cumbersome task (more precisely, an unwilling task). Having been used to lesser traffic, meeting people quite often, walking out on a weekend without planning for dinner, it seemed tougher to get adjusted to this new environment. To lead a life here, one needs immense patience, lots of money, loads of luck (to get a car park) and hell a lot of planning.



It has been more than a month since I landed here in this capital city but you have to believe me when I say that I haven’t made frequent visits out of the house. It was due to manifold reasons like car-lessness (I have not wrongly spelt carelessness. I wanted to tell that we spent nearly a month without a car), husband’s busy schedule, kids’ exams and other stuff that made me confine within the walls of the house. For the first time in our life, we have been living a life for ourselves – just ‘we’ all days through. That was indeed a torture to me. Unpacking cartons, buying groceries and other kitchen-related stuff kept me occupied for a while. I kept cursing about every single thing that I could see or hear about in this place. Cribbing over those unfound things, whimpering heavily over my dis-connection with the outside world, I somehow managed to pass through the frontier of distress and hatred and entered the precincts of acceptance. That was when the thought of going out for weekends arose. After a couple of hours of browsing, I identified the right places to visit. To begin with, I discovered places of interest for kids. We began moving out every Thursdays. With some money to spare, some luck in hand (for parking), instilling patience on my husband’s mind (for driving in the madding traffic of Abu Dhabi on a weekend) and with proper snacks to feed children when we get stuck in traffic, we thus began our journey out on weekends.



Everywhere I went, I looked around helplessly to locate a known face but in vain. It is not that we do not know anybody here in this place. I simply could not get the key to enter into their minds. Neither did I want anybody to consider me an object of disturbance. I developed my own saying, “Strangers can be better friends than acquaintances”. Thus I began the project of spotting new friends. With just one day to spare in a week, how successful can I be in making friends when the rest of the family’s concentration is purely vested on entertainment? So keeping that thought in the backyard of my mind, I managed to participate in the rest of the weekend activities.



For a change, this weekend we decided to go to the corniche instead of malls since the weather was pleasant and favourable. Abu Dhabi corniche was a lovely place to visit. The serene beauty of nature was unperturbed by the hustle and bustle of the people occupying it. It was a feast to see such a beauty properly organized and effectively used by the public. Corniche, park and beach were spread over kilometers in a single long stretch. This is an ideal place to relax after days of busy work schedule. Kids were left loose in the open area. I could see them stretch themselves to this ocean of paradise encompassing them into the beauty of nature and jumping in the new found joy. Since they were not properly equipped to jump into the water, they simply let their feet touch the gentle and kind waves that kissed the shore with grace. After a while they played with glee in the park and built castles in the sand. The happiness was found not only in kids’ face but also in ours. I too assisted them in building their castles. I began understanding that since there were lots of friends in Bahrain, we hardly spent time understanding our family’s tastes and interests. This is what the new life has made me understand. That moment I realised that in this city, we don’t have people to visit us home or call us or invite us or even to enquire about us. But still there can be seen traces of joy and happiness. It is not the people or place that gives us happiness. It is the settings of our mind that enable us to unveil the curtains of happiness hiding behind every single thing in life.



Everything in this world is in the eyes with which we project it. If we are able to lead a life without bias imbibing the innocence of kids, there is no missing or craving for anything around. With time, I have got used to this new surrounding. But I believe that I should not have taken 30 days to begin liking a place. We should be able to change gears based on the circumstance we step in. There is always a scope for enjoyment wherever we go.

Monday, 20 October 2008

A Tribute to my Revered Teacher

She is a terror”; “She is patently despotic”; “She doesn’t love anybody” – these were some of the words my seniors used to describe about Sister Jacob at school. My sister gave me a different testimonial though (My sister loved Sr. Jacob and she too loved my sister a lot). I felt it difficult to believe my sister in this aspect. I too, just like my seniors developed fear for her. Sr. Jacob was short, dark, and stout. She wore glasses that gave her the look of an authentic school teacher.

While at assembly her mere presence brought complete silence. During lunch breaks too, she used to move around to find traces of indiscipline among students. We always made an orderly entrance into the Hindi class since her room was immediately next to the Hindi class.

I had been part of the school choir. While singing, she would make a sudden appearance to hear all of us sing. The moment somebody giggles or talks, she would yell at them and throw them out of the group however well they might be singing. None of us dared to open our mouth except for singing when we realise that she is there to inspect.

The subject that she handled was English for Class 9 and 10. She was too good at it. During school assembly, if she noticed children using bad English, she would stop them immediately by saying, “stop using your pocket English”. Most of us preferred to shut our mouth the moment we notice her in our vicinity. When I was promoted to Class 9, I was too unhappy because I knew that she would be handling English class. In the normal course, English classes were fun period for us. We always had wonderful teachers for English who would not insist much on homework or ‘reading aloud’ stuff. But we knew that Sr. Jacob would be demanding too much from us. We were praying that she should somehow refrain from taking classes for us. And the miracle happened. It so happened fortunately for us that our Principal was transferred to another school and Sr. Jacob became the Principal. As a Principal her responsibilities increased and as a result she could manage to handle only Class 10. We rejoiced over this.

But the time came when we were promoted to 10th grade. No miracle happened this time. She became our English teacher. No escape!

The first annoying thing she did was a separation between Anu (one of my best friends) and me. She changed our sections. The entire school knew that Anu and I were best friends. We were always seen together. She shifted Anu to ‘A’ section and me to ‘B’ section. We both cursed her enough for this. English class thus began with such distress in my mind.

But the fear and dislike I had for Sr. Jacob did not continue for long. I began to agree with my sister. I really started admiring the way she handled the class. The class always maintained pin drop silence whenever she took class. That made me highly attentive in the class. I marveled at her approach towards the subject. I had never required a teacher’s assistance to write an English examination until that point. But she made me depend on her for ideas as to how to effectively prepare for an English exam. She discouraged reproducing words from the text. She encouraged building our vocabulary. She made us innovate with every lesson. She made us work out every illustration in the text book. She made us divide ourselves into groups and discuss about what we understood. She would ask us to write what we understood involving the inputs of our group members. She would then give us role-play. Most of the students who were weak in English and who disliked discussions continued hating her. But I simply fell in love with her. There was one another classmate of mine by name Jayadevi who too loved her incessantly.

Poems were taught beautifully by Sr. Jacob. I just couldn’t stop wondering why she should confine her to the rooms of a school when she had the ability to handle English literature for college students. Once she taught us “Stopping by the Woods on a Snowy Evening” by Robert Frost. What a wonderful poem! And what wonderful explanation to it! I still remember the last few lines –

“The woods are lovely dark and deep
But I have promises to keep
And miles to go before I sleep
And miles to go before I sleep..”

The last 2 lines (the repetition) in poetic terms is called a refrain. The core of the poem is the last 4 lines. It was a definite ERC (Explain with Reference to the Context) question whenever she set the question paper.

Her method of conveying was commendable. I simply felt like attending her class alone for the rest of my life. She also taught us “Daffodils” by William Wordsworth. More than Wordsworth’s poem, I appreciated how well Sr. Jacob had managed to set it into our minds. I simply loved her and she knew that I loved her. She also made a mention in my autograph book that I was a super star in her class. I still cannot forget those lines in my autograph book. They are priceless words transferred by a person of high intellect to a simple person like me.

She also encouraged me to write poems. Being inspired by Wordsworth’s ‘Daffodils’, Jayadevi and I made an attempt to write a poem sitting in the small garden of our school. We employed rich words and compiled a poem and showed it to her and won her credit. I feel that I should have preserved that piece of paper today. She pinned up high hopes on me. She wanted me to get educated in Cambridge University.

She taught us Grammar too. She used to explain them very well to us. Once she taught figure of speech - simile and metaphor and the difference between the two. She told us that we should never forget this at all and that she would come and ask us the difference between a simile and a metaphor on the day of our marriage. The example she gave was “He fought like a lion in the battle” – this was an example for simile and “He was a lion in the battle” – this was for metaphor. It has been 8 years since I am married now. I am still ready to answer her and so is my sister. Now where is Sr. Jacob to ask us this question?

Sr. Jacob was a pioneer in various fields. She used to handle office administration effectively as a responsible principal. She handled English classes for us. She used to organize various events and activities at school. She used to collect donations from wealthy people for the upbringing of our school. She used to monitor the other teachers of our school and had handled complaints from parents. She was too nice and sweet with all the parents. She was a simple person wearing a white robe on all days. Her life revolved around the convent and the chapel there. She hardly saw the world outside her. Once when I told her that I don’t want to get married, she asked me if I am also going to be a nun like her. At that point I did not give it a big thought and said that I would become a nun. But today, if I sit and note the sacrifices that one has to make to become a nun, I realize that it is never a joke to be a nun and I would never be able to do it either.

There was not a single person who would have escaped from writing the imposition that she often asked us to write – “I am an irresponsible idiot”. Yes, even I have written it too (A hundred times). Once she asked the entire class to write it when we could not maintain silence during the absence of a teacher. But my sister has escaped from it (didn’t I tell you that they both like each other so much?). She knew that most of the children were scared of her and never had good remarks about her. There were only few like my sister and some others like me who understood her true worth.

I had wondered what happiness would mean to her when I once saw her removing her spectacles and wiping tears away. I prayed to God for her that day. It was disturbing to see her like that. I knew that she prayed for our welfare everyday. Our batch created record of bringing the highest marks in the history of the school. She was too excited. All of her favourite students decided to make a visit to the school every year. But unfortunately, it never happened. All of us moved to different places in pursuit of establishing a career. We eventually lost touch with her. Anu gave me the sad news of her death some years back. I shed some tears for her. But I regret not having met her after my school life. I wish I had.

In this world where people pursue career as a part of making money, there existed my one and only Sr. Jacob who was so dedicated to what she was doing without being paid. Isn’t this called true service?

In a small town like Salem in Tamil Nadu where only Tamil is widely spoken, nobody would have imagined that there once lived a lady who imparted a foreign language so vividly to various children to that extent that they could manage a life abroad easily. Many thanks to you Sister; I loved you for what you were. But for you, I wouldn’t have developed a flair for English language.

How happy she would be if she comes to know that I have dedicated a blog exclusively for her! Who knows, maybe she is reading my blogs from the balconies of heaven!